“It Keeps No Records of Wrongs”

“It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” - 1 Corithians 13:5

    A lot of people ask me, “How can you be so happy all the time?”, “How do you deal with me?”, “Why are you listening to me being so depressing?” To be quite frank, I know you’re struggling and that you don’t mean the things you say. Your mind is clouded at the moment You just need someone here to listen because not everyone knows how to truly listen. Listening skills you think is easy. Hearing the words from someone’s lips. That’s listening right? Wrong. Listening to someone requires more than just hearing. It requires a different sense you have to develop. Some say it’s the sixth or seventh sense. This “sense” is being able to determine someone’s character based on how they said their first hello. Based on their strut, posture, body language, tone of voice, hair-do, make up, outfit, and a bunch of other variables play a role in determining it. Maybe calling it a sense isn’t the perfect word. Perhaps it’s a skill you develop as you encounter more people as an observer. Like for me I am usually able to tell someone is having what sort of day just by the way the muscles on their face fall when they relax them. Often times when people start talking to me and when I give them a harsher truth they tend to get defensive like anyone would. Heck, I mean I would. “WHAT’D YOU SAY?!!” But it’s just what I think might be best and what people wouldn’t normally say. Then after hearing what I say they feel like they’re stepping all over me. But like a toddler we need to express our frustration one way or another. If you break a wall, I’ll help you repair it. If you try to hurt me, I’ll be your punching bag until you’ve calmed down. Cause I know, in five years it won’t even matter what you did because I would have gotten over it and still find a million and a half reasons to love you. You might wonder; why? Why can I do that? Well, for one thing it happened in the past. You see. That’s just the thing. In the past, if I could still show love towards you then why not? Why should I make your cookie crumble just because mine has cracked? I mean I know I could always bake a new one and feel better about it. I say to myself, be the person who you would be happy with. When you become negative to everyone around you, you’re only going to get negativity back. But once you start to shoot out positivity every single day in everything you do, you’re only going to receive positivity back. So take your pick. Don’t forget the negatives. Redirect the negative energy and turn as much of it into positivity as possible. Fake it until you make it. No. Fake it until you become it. The driver is you and the road is your life. Choose your destination.