The idea of having a “crush”

    We’ve all gone through this. The oh so terrifying thing as to having a “crush”. We’ve all said things like “OMG SHE’S RIGHT THERE. HOW’S MY HAIR? TEETH? ARE MY PIMPLES BURSTING?” or “STOP. I CAN’T. MY HEART IS GONNA BURST. HIDE ME!” I used to be like that; screaming fan boy for that gorgie of a girl. Then end up creeping her right out cause of my naive mindset of “just go for it”. Little did I know you gotta know what you’re gonna do when you “go for it”! Being a scrawny Asian kid doesn’t help either. So I ended up just having a crush and then idolizing her cause I couldn’t do anything about it.

    Now, that I understand what having a “crush” means, I feel like the way people normally think about it is foolish. Having a “crush” means you can’t help but to feel crushed when they’re hurt or it crushes you to know you can’t be by their side at this moment. Also, with each other you guys could crush any challenge or obstacle that comes your way. The phrase “crush” is definitely taken too lightly. The word that fits better with the way people use it is probably “interested”. Yeah. See how as soon as you thought about that person as you’re “interested” instead of “my crush” it instantly takes them off the pedestal?

    The reason the idea of having a “crush” is not the right way to go about a relationship is cause if you have a crush on someone, you automatically put them on a pedestal and think you “love” them but in reality, you’re blinded by the infatuation for the person. Once the infatuation phase ends and you become annoyed at every little thing they do just because it’s them who’s doing it. Even though they mean no harm or not intended it like that but you take it like that anyway, establishing more and more excuses to hate them and more and more of a reason to leave. Then they’re wondering what they did for you to hate em.. Ultimately no one is happy in the end with one person as confused as they could be and the other person annoyed.