“No Strings Attached” is a Healthy Relationship

    You see all these posts on Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, Vine, Twitter or whichever one of the vast amount of social media you have seen love portrayed. Fluffed up love. All over these medias are pictures of couples kissing in front of a carnival with the unfocussed glistening Ferris wheel in the background or couples wearing matching clothes. Pictures of couples cuddling each other, groping each other. “When a guy picks you up when you kiss” - thingsgirlssay quote posts. Watching a couple dance together, eat ice cream together, prom/homecoming proposals. Sure the picture perfect moments were captured but that is all it is.. Picture perfect moments. You then indulge yourself into one of these relationships and realize your heart isn’t in it.

    Alright, before you indulge yourself into a relationship first ask yourself. Do I accept and love myself? You see, you have to first find acceptance and love for yourself. Discover and embrace your flaws before you can even begin to fathom a love burdening the flaws of another. If you haven’t even figured out yourself how can you even imagine beginning to figure out someone else? It’s probably why we posts things like, “I don’t understand girls/boys.” Love is not what it looks like on Big Bang Theory, HIMYM, The Notebook or the internet. I know, you’re probably saying, “I’ve heard this before!” But hear me out. The idea of a fluffed up version of love leads to more anguish and anxiety than true happiness and comfort. OH THAT’S SO TRUE. Yeah I know and why’s that? Well, this kind of “love” is destructive. More so being of a possessive ownership and also an illusional love. “bae, babe, princess, queen” these are all phrases we use to label someone but limited only to us. This is the most impure type of love. Pure love is when you are able to stand by them and say, “He’s a great guy for you, I’m happy for you I love you.” As to “Who is he? Why are you with him? It’s over.” Crazy huh? It may seem stupid, but isn’t that why the phrase “stupid love” exists? You love someone stupidly. Ponder on that for a moment. To be able to love someone stupidly must consist of a pretty damn strong force of love. So with that, cut the strings. Cut the strings of obsession, addiction and idolization of that person creating that illusionary love. Cut those strings so you won’t be dragged down emotionally when those strings snap. Don’t fall in love but instead let love fall into you.