Do you “Twilter”?
This one sparked up from talking, or texting rather, my “God Sister”. No she’s not my ACTUAL God Sister but I adopted her… Long story. Well I noticed that she was replying halfheartedly only telling me about the events in her life when we would catch up or say what’s up. I found myself starting to dread asking her what’s going on with her life because I already know what to expect. The messages seemed kind of “empty” and meaningless. As if it were just text and words from learning the alphabet. I then realized what it was. Sure, I care about the events like you going on a date and how they opened the door for you. But what I care MORE is about HOW they did those actions. Did they say anything that stuck out to you? Or like what did you think when they did those certain things for you. What’s lacking in day to day conversations now that social media is becoming this giant we can not ignore. We start filtering things out from what we would normally say. Thinking of constructing a text message like how you’re composing a Tweet. Thus I came up with the term “Twilter”. To filter your words as if you’re about to tweet. Brief, to the point and without explanation. AKA no personality. Purely just words that people can read, just to read. If you do not even 100% believe in the words you write how could anyone else take you 100%? I believe that personality is created when you care to communicate your thought process more than the event itself.
Questions to ask yourself when you tell a story:
- What made this situation/event so much more significant than the other ones?
- Am I going to remember what I said towards you?
- How did it impact you emotionally?
The steps that I took that helped me portray my personality:
- Recognize your thoughts & feelings before you “TWILTER” your words.
- Understand your emotions and nick pick the ones that impacted your mood the most.
- Just say it even if it isn’t totally in the right context. As long as it’s not offensive towards you’re talking to. (Maybe try to keep it somewhat relatable)
- Stop worrying about what they will think about you since you’re trying to present who you are and for them to like you for you. Not because you’re trying to be someone they want you to be. Live for yourself!