Self Value

    The value of one’s self is so often unaccounted for. We think what others have is what we want, thus we set out our goals to achieve it. We forget to think for ourselves; what we really value, or what our loved ones’ value. We are all so consumed by these extravagant success stories we eventually tune out the bitter and the sour of reality.

    In a relationship, we like to think novelty; text every day, never ignore each other, lots of hearts, I love you’s, cuddles, “Netflix and Chill”, go on novelty dates, have high end food, kissing in the rain, hugs from behind, blah blah you get the picture. That’s what we expect in this millennial society with social media and the internet making certain things seem more of a value than as to what they really are. We then become obsessed with those ideals turning a blind eye to the morals and values our childhood taught us.


Truth is…

    In a relationship we need to understand our own values and if these values are valued by your S.O. If you don’t even know yourself going into a relationship how could you possibly get to know your S.O. 100%? You need to have morals that you will stand by. If you can’t trust yourself with day to day things like handling a situation. How could you possibly trust your S.O.? Any sort of doubt beginning a relationship will only deteriorate that relationship whether it takes a week or 5 years. So before jumping into a relationship make sure you are mentally prepared to break and repair yourself over and over. The key word is “REPAIR”. Learn about yourself and don’t irrationally blame ANYONE because it literally doesn’t matter who’s at fault. Argumentation has no winners.

    Once you understand your own self value, (i.g: knowing your goals, what you are passionate for, what you like to become and what kind of person you would want to be if you were to meet your 13 year old self) you will be able to find what you were looking for since you are no longer looking for your own self value.